One mom wanting to help other moms
Author of Genuinely Georgetown: Real People. Real Stories. Real Inspiration, Alicea Jones genuinely cares about the people in our community. And as founder of the nonprofit MomCare Network and A Day for Moms Conference, Alicea cares particularly about moms in the community—and she wants them to care for themselves.
When I became a mom: I had been a career woman and thought that if I could manage 100 employees, surely I could stay at home and manage one child. Boy, did I have a lot to learn! I felt totally inept as a stay-at-home mom. I struggled with the uncertainty and fought the urge to be perfect. In an effort to be a good mom, I neglected self-care and wound up being depressed.
Self-care: Basically, self-care is anything having to do with the mind, the body, and the spirit. As moms, we get so focused taking care of our children, whether it’s one child or seven, we often keep going until we’re running on empty. And then we keep on running until we end up getting sick or depressed, angry or resentful. I want other moms, especially those with young children, to know that self-care isn’t selfish. If you don’t care for yourself, how can you care for your children?
Moms often feel isolated: When I was home with my child, most of my friends were working. Our neighborhood was practically a ghost town. I think just having other people around would have been great. The community college had a parent course, which I ended up joining. I met other women, moms who were going through the same things I was. It was that sense of camaraderie that helped me.
Flowers and kind words: Sometimes when I’m at the store, if I have a few extra dollars, I’ll buy a bouquet of flowers and look around for a mom with kids, and I’ll give them to her. Every time I’ve done this, I’ve been afraid that the mom will think I’m weird, but never once has someone declined the flowers. You just don’t know how your words or actions may be the thing that she needs that day.
A Day for Moms Conference is coming in Fall 2017! The conference will include informative speakers who address topics such as how moms take care of themselves, keep their dreams alive, and create healthy boundaries. For more information about A Day for Moms Conference and MomCare Network, visit www.momcarenetwork.org.